How to Stay Hard After Ejaculation

Let’s face it, it’s not easy to know how to stay hard after ejaculation.

Your whole body relaxes, the excitement fizzles out and you’re left spent after the sexual experience you just had.

Sometimes you want to continue, and this is completely normal.

Maybe you want some more time between the sheets because of your partner, maybe you’re prone to finishing too soon or maybe you want to find out how many times you can cum in a row.

The good news is there are some easy tips you can follow to improve your chances of maintaining an erection after having an orgasm. You don’t need to be an expert either.

Simply follow our trusty guide and master the art of learning how to stay in the game after ejaculation.

We will also include some tips on how not to cum so quickly so that you can maximize your pleasure time in the bedroom.

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Can You Stay Hard After an Orgasm?

The answer to this question is yes, technically it’s possible to maintain your erection post-orgasm, but this largely depends on the type of orgasm you had and the events leading up to the orgasm.

The techniques that will allow staying hard after orgasm have to do with preventing ejaculation, and two of the most popular techniques for achieving this are having dry orgasms and practicing edging.

Dry Orgasms

One way to ensure you stay hard after an orgasm is to prevent ejaculation from occurring, also known as semen retention.

If you were thinking that all orgasms end in ejaculation, think again. Even though many men never experience this, it’s possible to experience an orgasm without ejaculating, also known as a dry orgasm.

And this technique is key for having an orgasm and maintaining your erection after. So, how do you have a dry orgasm?

The answer to this has to do with pelvic muscle control. 

Think about the muscles you use while urinating. Having knowledge of these muscles will increase your awareness of the muscles that become engaged during ejaculation.

Essentially, you need to learn how to control the pelvic muscles so that you can control ejaculation.

This will allow you to stop ejaculation from occurring, even while experiencing an orgasm, and is a surefire way to learn how to solve premature ejaculation as well.

It takes some practice. You’ll have to do daily Kegel exercises, which refer to tightening the pelvic floor muscles, holding the contraction for three seconds, and then releasing the contraction.

Doing this a few times in a row, for a few times a day, will help you to strengthen these muscles in no time.

Kegels can help you stay hard after an orgasm, but they also teach you how to ejaculate longer and stronger and prevent you from ejaculating too quickly.


Another tried and tested method for staying hard after an orgasm is using a technique called edging. Edging refers to delaying your orgasm as long as possible.

In other words, you’ll move through the stages of arousal and bring yourself to the brink of orgasm before stopping. Then, you wait a few seconds or minutes and start the whole process again.

This requires an in-depth knowledge of your body, especially the sensations experienced just before ejaculating.

You need to know exactly how long it takes to ejaculate so that you can stop the process at the correct time.

Luckily, this is something you can easily explore during masturbation.

Increased awareness of your body’s reaction to sexual stimuli and the sensations associated with climax will help you to navigate these experiences and master the technique of edging.

Edging will allow you to experience the near-pleasure of an orgasm, repeatedly, without ejaculating.

This method can extend your sexual session, but it can also lead to a more intense orgasm when it finally happens. This makes it a popular technique among men who want to learn how to maintain their erections for longer.

It also solves the problem of premature ejaculation and will allow you to last longer in bed.

So does this mean you can’t stay erect after having an orgasm that ends in ejaculation? No, not really, and this has to do with what happens in the body after you ejaculate.

What Happens After You Ejaculate?

Think back to the last time you had an orgasm that ended in ejaculation. It’s possible that the last thing you wanted was to become aroused all over again, and this is completely normal.

After ejaculation, it can be hard to get turned on again, no matter how much you want to. This is because of the physiological processes that occur after ejaculation.

When you ejaculate, your heart rate and breathing will return to their normal, resting rate and your muscles will start to relax.

You may even feel a bit sleepy and your erection will start to fade away due to the additional blood in your penis exiting the penis.

This process is known as the refractory period and it pretty much reverses all the processes that gave you an erection in the first place.

The refractory period refers to how long it takes to recover after ejaculation, and it can vary greatly from one man to the next.

Unfortunately, unless you’re still in puberty, the refractory period will require you to take more than a few minutes to recover after you have ejaculated.

For this reason, you need to avoid ejaculation if you want to maintain your erection because, as soon as you secrete seminal fluid, your brain releases prolactin and your body starts preparing itself for rest and recovery.

How to Shorten the Refractory Period

So maybe you have no interest in dry orgasms and edging and you want to ejaculate every time you orgasm.

If this is the case, you may want to look at how to shorten the refractory period so that you can learn how to ejaculate more quickly after your previous ejaculation.

Just remember that no matter how often you ejaculate as a male, more ejaculation will decrease the amount of semen that is produced each time.

Unfortunately, the refractory period also becomes longer as you age and averages between 12 hours and a day for older men, but it’s possible to decrease your refractory period, which will allow you to become aroused a little bit sooner after you have ejaculated.

The first way to do this is to abstain from sex and masturbation for a while.

This will allow you to have more to give when you really want to perform and move from one ejaculation to the next.

Think about how many times a man can ejaculate in a day. At the maximum, this number stands about five, before men start having dry orgasms.

So, if you have already ejaculated three times, the chances are that you are going to struggle to ejaculate or even get an erection again in the next round.

There are also some sexual dysfunctions that may contribute to a longer refractory period. 

If you’re having issues with increasingly long refractory periods in the absence of increased sexual activity, you may want to consult a physician.

These include premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, retrograde ejaculation, and delayed ejaculation.

Some of these conditions are easily treatable through the inclusion of zinc, folic acid, Vitamin E, and magnesium into your diet.

Some supplements, such as Semenax pills, contain all the healthy extracts you need to shorten your refractory period, maintain your erection for longer and improve your sexual stamina and health overall.

Another important contributor to vibrant, long-lasting sexual encounters is healthy lifestyle changes. For men, a healthy lifestyle is positively associated with sexual health.

A balanced diet and exercise play a key role here alongside limiting your alcohol intake and avoiding cigarettes or other tobacco products.

Some sexual disorders need medical intervention though.

For example, the remedies for how to fix retrograde ejaculation and how to cure delayed ejaculation are slightly more complex and may require you to consult a physician.


In short, it’s not that easy to stay hard after having an orgasm, and it’s near impossible after experiencing an ejaculatory orgasm unless you shorten your refractory period.

The good news is that a strong pelvic floor and a little bit of technique can allow you to have an orgasm and retain your erection for further sexual performance.

There are also many helpful ways to shorten your refractory period if you want to limit the time between ejaculatory orgasms.

Whether you want to extend your sexual pleasure for your partner or yourself, there’s more than one way to stay hard after orgasm or become aroused again even after you’ve ejaculated.

So why not try it out for yourself?

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